Some Quakers believe that when we die, we enter a realm of pure love that expands upon our spiritual experience of God’s love during our mortal lives. Others believe that we will enter the presence of Jesus and stay with him through eternity. And some Friends consider death the end of our existence. Here are some insights into Quakers’ varying spiritual approaches to death and beliefs about the afterlife.
George Fox and the original Quakers believed they were living in the era of Christ’s return to earth, so they did not emphasize the afterlife, as Patricia Barber explains. They considered themselves the people who would usher in Jesus’ millennial reign, an event many Christians believe the biblical book of Revelation predicts, so they tried to create a peaceable kingdom in their meetings. Even after Friends stopped believing they were living in apocalyptic days, their faith centered on their present lives, not on what awaited them after death.
Nearly four centuries later, many Liberal Friends continue to de-emphasize the afterlife or disbelieve in it altogether.
In a 2001 sociological study comparing the beliefs of Anglicans and Quakers, University of Reading (UK) master’s degree candidate Jan Swallow interviewed 28 volunteers from five local Friends meetings in Britain regarding their views on the afterlife. She discovered much diversity in the Friends’ beliefs. The Quakers Swallow interviewed often prioritized living ethically in the current life over the expectation of an afterlife. Those Friends who identified as Christ-centered did not consider a belief in eternal life central to Christian faith. The Christocentric Quakers thought that faith in life after death might corrupt someone’s motives for following Jesus. The interviewees knew a good deal about the post-death beliefs of adherents of other faiths. When answering questions on their convictions about the afterlife, Quakers often supported their beliefs by referring to personal experiences.
Swallow categorized respondents as materialists who believe existence ends with death, hopeful agnostics, anthropocentrics, and theocentrics. Six Quakers who identified as materialist expressed appreciation that Quaker meetings embraced those whose faith included considerable doubt. Many Christ-centered Quakers said they were basing their current life on Jesus’s teachings but did not believe that life continues after death. Some Quakers who believed in a spiritual afterlife did not connect this conviction with their experiences in worship.
Many traditionalist Friends, who adhere to the Christian understandings of early Quakers, do seek solace in a belief in the afterlife.
The Book of Discipline of Ohio Yearly Meeting, which consists of Conservative Friends, has this to say about funerals:
The simplicity of a meeting for worship is desired in the conduct of funerals. They should be occasions when things temporal are secondary, when the reality of life immortal is deeply felt, and when the presence of our Lord brings hope, comfort, and consolation to the bereaved.
Evangelical Friends, such as those in the MidAmerica Yearly Meeting, believe that judgment of the dead will occur when Christ returns to earth. Their online statement of Faith and Practice expands on this idea:
“The dead shall be resurrected, some to eternal life, others to everlasting punishment. All shall be judged by God and receive just recompense for their deeds. The blessed ones shall live forever in heaven, but the lost suffer eternally in hell.”
Members of Friends United Meeting in East Africa hold similar views. “God does not want anyone to perish unsaved and has given each of us the capacity and opportunity to hear the invitation of Jesus to be restored to God,” FUM’s Christian Faith and Practice in the Friends Church explains. “Those who remain obstinate in sin and persist in ignoring the invitation of Jesus to be forgiven and saved are in grave danger of eternal separation from God. This state of eternal separation from God is known as hell.”
There is a contrasting vision of the afterlife, known as universal salvation, which argues that a truly loving God would never subject a person to eternal torment, and that heaven could not truly be paradise if those in it knew any of their loved ones were suffering in hell. In this view, death is not the end of the soul’s effort to be “restored to God,” and God will wait as long as it takes for every soul, even those whom we would consider evil in their lifetimes, to reach that point.
But even in yearly and monthly meetings that do not emphasize a Christian vision of the afterlife, Friends recognize the value in preparing oneself spiritually for death.
Langley Hill Friends Meeting in McLean, Va., for example, offers queries such as these for contemplation:
“Am I prepared to meet my Maker? What do I need to do or feel now, to be ready for death? Can I accept that I did all that I did, and can’t undo it?”
“If I died today, would I have any regrets? What would I have done differently to avoid regrets? Can I do something now to reduce or eliminate those regrets?”
“Do I give myself and others enough space and opportunity for forgiveness to take place genuinely?”
“How can I let go of fear of death, in myself and in others?”
Quakerism offers a variety of perspectives for those seeking spiritual support as they consider mortality. Understanding the diversity of views can facilitate dialogue among Quakers who adhere to divergent beliefs. Those seeking to support grieving Friends can tailor their comfort to reflect the convictions of individual believers.
Learn More at Friends Journal
“Heaven-Based Living,” Michael Resman
“Touched by Death and Dying,” Marcelle Martin
“A Quaker Approach to Living with Dying,” Katherine Jaramillo
“A Simple State of Being That Never Truly Dies,” Robert Stephen Dicken
“A Quaker’s Passing: My Father’s Way,” Shannon Zimmerman
“Weeping to Joy,” Betsy Blake
“There are some aspects of death and dying that I think Quakers do very well, and one is that we tend to be able to prepare. We tend to be able to say, ‘this is what I want’ … and to turn ourselves towards our dying and think about how we want to die well.”